My husband and I recently went on a trip to Cancun, Mexico to spend some much needed mom and dad time together. A week away from life and simply remembering who we are as a couple and individually. To see how far we have come, how we have changed and reconnect on what our lives should be about.
We have experienced things in a marriage like most other couples...loss, job changes, stress, financial strains, kids...all things in life will affect a marriage in some way. It’s how we allow it to change us is what makes the difference. Change can bring out anger, fear and discontentment in the best of us. We can spew our issues into the other without even realizing it. There was a time when these things pushed us to throwing around the “d” word...divorce. I don’t say that lightly, those were hard times and ultimately I think our desire to love each other won out. Christ became more centered in our lives individually and then into our marriage.
Two people can be very different in their personalities, their actions and still make a marriage thrive. It takes Jesus to do that because I believe He is the one who can ultimately change a heart to see the heart of another; to see past each other’s faults and communicate on a deeper level. It’s deciding to listen and not just speak.
We always wanted kids, a big family and wanted a life filled with that lasting love, who doesn’t right?! But life does not happen like you plan it 99% of the time but walking in Faith has created a whole new perspective for us and a love that we both didn’t know could exist. I don’t write this to be boastful but we both want others to know the importance of having a Christ centered marriage.
Dating your spouse has been something we have been working on; getting past the guilt of leaving our kids to take time for our marriage so we can ultimately be better for our kids. Get back to the head over heels love you both felt when you decided to get married, celebrate your victories, talk about your life experiences and decide the direction for your family. It’s not selfish it’s necessary. Now does your date have to be a Mexico trip Absolutely not...go anywhere, just be in the moment, present with each other; have downtime but also an adventure that may push you out of your comfort zone!
Give 100% not just 50/50, show respect and expect it in return, be selfless and see it returned, pray for your marriage and fight for it spiritually; loving Jesus with your whole heart makes you love in a different way, a deeper way or at least this is my opinion. I can remember how I loved when our marriage started and how I love now...completely different. I was selfish and expected my spouse to make me happy. That just ain’t how it is!
We pray wherever you are in your marriage today, whatever season, you love with deep roots into Christ’s love for you. Forgiveness and grace. Kindness and mercy.
Selflessness and seeking.
💞Megan Taunton
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